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“Silence isn’t empty.
It’s full of answers.”
How many of us woman keep quiet?
Every relationship struggles from time to time.
It’s nothing to be ashamed about.
All relationships are rollercoasters.
But on those down times…
how many of us stay quiet?
That’s right, quiet.
Do you bite your tongue or
add fuel to the fire?
If you’re anything like me,
(which I know a lot of women are)
I don’t keep quiet!
I guess I’m not even fully aware of it.
But when we are not the happiest of
people around each other.
I make everything a big deal.
The blanket on the floor…
and it’s on.
“Why is this clean blanket on the floor, KEVIN!”
I’ll be the first to admit.
I guess I do it because I want to get a reaction.
I get mad at the blanket being on the floor,
so that we can argue about it, then I can
slowly incorporate what we argued about
the other day that we didn’t finish! Haha.
Trust me, I know this is wrong.
Of course I don’t go overboard.
But it is strategize.
How about when us women start feeling neglected, unimportant or lonely?
Do you let them know?
Or do you bottle it up and blow up?
Or do you let them know and bottle it up AND blow up?
Let me tell you what happened to me.
My fiancé is a very dedicated entrepreneur.
I say dedicated because he will do whatever
it takes to make something work.
That includes, early morning to late nights.
Calls, texting and email during family time.
What family time?
Can I be mad at this?
No. He is so determined.
I love that about him. So ambitious.
However, after a while…
I can start feeling neglected.
You know, the good wife that stays home,
watches the kiddos, home cooked meals,
clean house all the time, laundry always
What about me?
Marriage is always pretty flowers and rainbows.
There are a lot of thunderstorms and even
earthquakes in some.
Love will always be there, but the “in love” will
sometimes fade in and out. It’s our job, as husband
or wife to keep that spark of love going in the relationship.
For more tips go read, 7 ways to fall in love with your marriage again!
This happens every now and then,
when I get in my moods.
I just want to feel appreciated.
Most of the time, I bottle everything up.
This is wrong. We have to remember,
we all have bad days. We sometimes wake up
in those horrible moods. That is okay!
We are not meant to feel happy 24/7 and
365 days out the year. What type of life is that?
a bad day!
However, this time around,
I stopped myself from exploding.
My meditation was coming to shine some light.
Consciously I stopped myself from exploding because
I knew I was getting in my moods again.
I was already aware that he had a lot of business things going on.
So I already knew where his head was at.
I’ve tried with conscious effort to
practice what I preach because I have
tapped into our inner power that I know exist.
So practicing the 12 ways to attract
positivity into my life, has really helped
me in so many ways, on a daily.
So what I did instead was keep silent.
That’s right, I held my tongue.
I calmed myself.
And the most precious thing happened.
I observed him.
I payed attention to him.
In a time where I would’ve picked a fight.
Or let him know that he’s putting me
in the back burner again.
What I realized changed everything for me.
It was weird because I already knew this.
But his mind was really somewhere else.
I watched his every move from a distance.
Listened to his phone calls. Making big
Trying to figure things out.
Can you imagine if I placed a bomb on his lap
to add to his frustrations?
Over something I get over in a few days.
over being in my feelings.
So what I did instead is let him have his space.
Ask him if he needs me to do anything for him.
Gave him one of those meaningful hugs.
Not that the other hugs aren’t meaningful.
But you know what I mean.
When you hold on tight just a little longer.
A hug of… “I understand and I support you” type of hug.
That silence gave me a different perspective.
It allowed me to take a step back.
Look around and
No I’m not talking physically.
I’m talking vibes.
I felt his stress, his nervousness, anxiety, excitement.
He was so determined.
It was a great experience for me.
Now am I saying to keep your emotions
bottled up all the time?
Or just be this amazing superwoman and
not tell him how you feel?
If you feel a certain way, I always stand
firm on letting them know right then
and there. How can anything get better
if they don’t know? Remember, we are dealing
with men. They don’t understand our silent
treatment or short answers.
But what I am saying to all the woman who
do speak up and out.
Try something different.
Instead of blowing up, pay attention.
Ask yourself if it’s something blowing
If you know he loves you.
You believe that he’s not cheating on you.
And you for sure know that he has major things going
on in his life at the moment.
Is it truly worth it?
Do you want your feelings acknowledged or
would you like to be an amazing wife that he needs?