Love Your Flaws So You Can Be FLAWLESS!

Women and even girls are so critical with themselves. Pointing out every single flaw, or what they think is a flaw. Girls and women from all over the world are fighting within themselves because of all the media that is shown to us. They have created an image for how THEY THINK a beautiful woman should look like or how a mother should look or even act like. It’s horrible what they’ve done to try to influence us.

I’m here to tell you all gorgeous women reading this right now! YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! Not just on the outside, but the inside. You have to understand WHO YOU ARE! There is no one in the world like you. There is no one in the world like me. We are all made differently and we all have a special touch. Unfortunately, we are taught to compare our special touches. Which is complete insanity! Not just that, but we are taught to play a competition with other women to get the attention or approval of men! I-N-S-A-N-E!


Enough rambling about that! I can literally talk about THAT forever. Let’s instead talk about WHY it’s important to love your flaws! There is a few good reasons actually that is beyond just looks! 


  • The first step, yet the hardest step is acceptance! Once you can accept not only the positives, but all the flaws and negatives that you have. It’s a wrap because you then become unstoppable. Accepting your flaws is being aware that you have it, acknowledging it and learning to love it because it is now a part of you.


  • Accepting your flaws and loving them then leads to full blown out confidence! What every women should have and what every man loves their women to have! Being confident in all you have and don’t have, that is true confidence! Being able to determine your weak spot and not letting it define you is confidence in my eyes.


  • When you are able to fully love yourself, including your flaws, you find that you start leaving your comfort zone. Which you can read HERE why that is just so important. Not only for your success but to find true happiness.


  • As women, as a mother we are setting examples to the young women right behind us. What are we teaching our daughters, sisters and young women from all over?

You might want to follow a couple of my boards to get some inspiration to build your confidence up again!


Now don’t get me wrong. It’s HARD! It’s difficult to accept things that we just plain out don’t like. Is it wrong for wanting to improve or enhance your flaws? Not really. There will be days where you learn a new flaw that you have. You may not like it, it may take days, weeks or even months to accept it. But accepting it for what it is, is the key to confidence! You have to remember to let all the good qualities that you have outweigh the bad. Everyone has a bit of both. How you carry it is up to you!



You won’t just have one flaw. Yeah right! You will have many just like the other 7 Billion people on this Earth! So you’re not alone. Your overall beauty, internal and external will always outweigh the bad.


You should never give more focus and attention to just the bad. Do you understand what that is doing to your mind and confidence? Don’t do that to yourself! Focus on all the qualities that you are best at! Watch how your view of yourself will change. And really, you will begin to love yourself so much that you then start realizing that you never had flaws to begin with, because your flaws make YOU who YOU ARE, causing you to be FLAWLESS baby!



  • Is there a story behind a flaw you don’t like? A perfect example would be a scar or stretch marks. how many mammas out there get insecure about their stretch marks? Millions let me tell you! What’s your story behind your stretch marks? ***hand raised. Your story is that you have the all out physical and emotional power to create and carry another life inside of you for a full nine months! Your body was able to endure the growth of this sweet innocent life causing your skin to stretch along the way. I don’t see how the media views this as being ugly or unattractive! IT’S REAL LIFE! Literally.


  • Is this a flaw you have control over? Some may be a no. However some flaws like weight, you have full control over. Don’t get me wrong. There are gorgeous women out there that are thick and big and just flat out gorgeous and sexy! Why? Well because their confidence is all over the place. They do not let the media define them which is so damn sexy! However, there are many women out there, actually this is the most common insecurity, is gaining weight. Is that something you have control over? OF COURSE! If you don’t like the way you look, then get to running. Go to the gym. Work on yourself so that you can build your confidence! It’s that easy. Well, I know it’s not that easy and that’s actually why many people don’t change. However, ladies reading this, if this is your insecurity. Please understand that you have control over this. You have the choice of either being an insecure women or a strong confident women who loves the way she looks and who she is! The choice is yours. The beauty of it, again, is that YOU HAVE CONTROL!


  • Positive self talk is so powerful! I mean, people truly take for granted of this simple, overlooked power. Telling yourself that you look good, you are smart and you are worth it can come a very long way. You can read more about the power of repetition and how it changes life drastically or even how you can start attracting positivity with this one simple activity. Of course that post is in general, whether it’s attracting love, opportunities, money or happiness. If it’s confidence you want to attract then focus on the good qualities or decisions you have made that day.


  • If you just can’t find a way to really accept this flaw of yours. Remind yourself on how much worse it can be! Be grateful for what it is. Remember the universe hears all and feels all. When you keep complaining of is what you will get more of.


  • Express yourself! Don’t be shy because of your flaw. It’s actually been scientifically proven that those who express and share their insecurities with others soon become very confident about them!


  • STOP COMPARING yourself with others. This is a big no no ladies! Just because you don’t have it and she does, does NOT make her better than you. Understand this because this is such a big deal going on right now. We are not all made the same, therefore we all have different qualities, different strengths as well as weaknesses. Focus on the all the good you have!


  • Be grateful for the good you do have. I went over this a bit already. This is just so important! If you like your hair, your eyes, your attitude, whatever it is. Be grateful for it! Tell yourself everyday that you love the way your smile looks. Everyday! Don’t let a day pass by where you don’t tell yourself I love you!


  • So I mentioned this earlier. There is 7 billion people in the world. Out of all these people, not one is made perfect. Yeah, some may be physically more attractive than others. But does this make them better than you? Absolutely not! Remember, looks will always go away. Work on your inner beauty because that’s where it’s at! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I believe in this saying from the bottom of my heart! Because the prettiest girl can have such an ugly attitude, horrible mind and to me that changes their whole physical appearance. It’s weird how that works, but it’s true!


  • FAKE IT TIL YOU MAKE IT! Okay so you are not completely confident in yourself just yet. That’s okay, it’s a process. The fastest way to get confident is by faking it! Walk as if you have no worries about what is said about you, make small talk to others and just positive talk to yourself. Watch how after a while, you will become confident because you practiced it.



You got this girl! I have flaws, you have flaws, she has flaws, they have flaws, we literally all have flaws! Don’t beat yourself up about it. The difference is how you carry them. Personally, I like to carry my flaws with me because they are a part of me. They make me who I am today. Screw the media and any one who feels that women need to perfect in order to be beautiful! That is psychotic!





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Stephanie Coto

Life is whatever you want it to be. First you need to change the way you think. My name is Stephanie. I’m a mother and women who want to inspire other queens out there.

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